15 year old admits to having sex 300 times

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Plus, the teens start wearing makeup, looking all sexy[ewww] and they attract older guys - and thus, those older guys may play them, and things like that. So, then the giirl gets her heart-broken, and can't stir away, so thus, she starts "not giving a fuck", and starts acting up because she got crushed - do you think is true, or false? I'd love to hear your opinion on this one as well.

I think this can happen on either end. My fiance sort of did this when he had his heart broken from a relationship long before we knew each other. Everybody handles things like this differently.

There are a lot of double standards that are held for relationships and/or sex though, and unfortunately I think that has to be taught to children based on the experiences they will likely have.
For instance, my mother taught me about sex when I was about 7, but when I was about to enter Jr. High was when she explained the more societal influences of it. I.e. Peer pressure, the illusion of 'maturity' it creates, but also the way straight (cis)men are expected to handle it as opposed to anybody else. She also gave me pepper spray that same day, and told me to never go anywhere with out it. Soon afterwards I started taking BC even though I didn't plan to be sexually active anytime soon.
She never tried to tell me not to have sex, or that it was wrong to have sex, or anything like that. Instead she taught me how to be prepared, and what to expect. I think that probably made a huge difference, because it didn't become a 'forbidden fruit' of sorts.

She also taught me about drinking and drugs the same way. Now, as always, everybody is different, and not everybody will handle things like this the same way. But I do think that teaching people how to handle a situation is generally better than trying to hide the fact that it can happen at all, because then when they do find out about it...well, again, 'forbidden fruit' factor comes into play.

The girl in this video clearly ended up with the idea that having sex translated to being independent or mature - and while one's sexuality can be strongly connected to this, and the mere fact that she has had a lot of sex is not something I think should be shamed or spat on, it is very clear she has some very large misunderstandings on what having sex actually means. It means she's had sex, and that's it.

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So, I read through the thread more or less, and I'm not sure what to say exactly anymore. But it seems at the end of the day, there's a lot of assumptions on a persons upbringing, and that doesn't mean that there has to be someone to blame.

You can always point fingers at society, but you're still part of that society.

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YES! That is one of the most spot on articles you could have found @cpvr! That is the exact point I was trying to relay to @Gabby. We cannot blame a child who is unable to form the requisite thought-processes and we cannot blame the parents who struggle to guide their child through this precarious time of their growth. It is what it is and no child should be summarily dismissed because of bad decision making during this time period and parents can not automatically be cast in a bad parenting role simply because they have an unruly child.

Yup, its so true as well because even if you have good parents, you can still be led to the wrong path. I'll admit, I'm the worst out of all my siblings - lots of trouble with the law, and everything else. None of my brothers nor sisters are like me, and that's probably because I'm the oldest, and I wasn't too young when we moved out of the ghetto, onto the suburbs. I guess my lifestyle followed me from when I was younger.

I'll admit to this now. A few years ago, I got jumped by 7 mexicans, then after the fight, they threatened to shoot up my house. My mom and dad put me on a plane back to my hometown as fast as they could. Did I learn my lesson? Nope, because they started it with me, and I was just defending myself, but my parents were worried like a mug, and I don't blame them.

We can't keep kids out of trouble, at all. Especially teenagers, they're going to do what they want, you can beat them, but then they'll be all like "Screw my parents, I'd rather go out", and these are the same teens that sneak out the house and go party, do whatever, just because their mindset is set at "I'll do what I want, regardless of what my parents say to me".

It's wrong, but hey, that's how society works these days, right?

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YES! That is one of the most spot on articles you could have found @cpvr ! That is the exact point I was trying to relay to @Gabby . We cannot blame a child who is unable to form the requisite thought-processes and we cannot blame the parents who struggle to guide their child through this precarious time of their growth. It is what it is and no child should be summarily dismissed because of bad decision making during this time period and parents can not automatically be cast in a bad parenting role simply because they have an unruly child.

From the start I did not blame the child, but the environment she was in. I mentioned bad peer groups. I mentioned bad parenting.

I don't know her personally and every situation is different; but if she has such disrespect for herself where she is going on TV and acting like a brat, I'm concerned about where our youth is heading.

It seems you have quite an estranged perception on every thing that has been said. Most of the points you call me out on I agreed with you about. There was little left to relay.

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Awww Gabby ... how underwhelmingly verbose. My perception and I are just fine. It is difficult, but not impossible, to debate someone who puts things in writing and then back pedals. You and I will likely never agree on this, and possibly other subject(s), but that's okay. I am here and my keyboard is working just fine.

I'm happy your keyboard is working fine, what does that particularly have to do with the topic?

Back pedals? I made a joke, not an argument. We don't share the same sense of humor. It happens.

I plan on getting back on topic about first post here. I don't have the time or interest to argue with you about how I sound. It's the internet. Unless you're having a face-to-face conversation, there really is no attitude to perceive. Hence why I feel the way I do about your perception.

If you're going to argue with me about how I "sound", and not about my topic, please know I will no longer respond.

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Nvm ... whoosh!



Really????



I'm happy to get back on topic. Go for it! *Thinks to self ... I'm arguing about how she sounds???*

Lol everyone stop it, that's enough of the arguments, get back on topic.

So, anyways, since Maury was mentioned - what does everyone truly think about the show? Do you watch it?

Also, how do you feel about the ladies that go on the show and don't know who their baby's father is? This relates to the topic, because they're exactly like this girl who admitted to having sex numerous times.

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