Do you trust your lover with your passwords

[SpunkiSpirou]

I have one of my best mate's PIN numbers for the bank, so pretty much if he gives me his bank card and asks me to go down to an ATM and take £20 out or so, I can go and do that for him. He did know mine as well until I changed it, but I had to change it cause of some security thing the bank was doing and it had to be changed for that.

And then I have Dax's facebook email and password which he gave me to look after for when he loses them - which he did yesterday.

[Mantis]

I've never had that level of trust in a relationship. Sometimes it was a lack of trust, and sometimes I was the bad guy, acting on a hunch I had. Although I won't go through with such bad acts in the future, it's unfortunate that my hunches have been right every time. An ex-girlfriend (British, as am I) was talking to an American guy almost all the time. She denied that it was anything beyond friendship. I didn't trust her, so I transferred her chat logs to a USB drive when staying at her house once. Her conversations with him were almost on the intimate side, and the final nail in the coffin was her telling him she wished it was him a train ride away and me in another country.

The fact she couldn't be honest with me about her feelings (or lack thereof) in the first place actually makes me feel little regret for what I did. But I don't plan on doing it again. The problem really is that despite changes in affection, a lot of people don't tell their partners about it to avoid hurting their feelings. When I broke up with said girlfriend, she told me she didn't love me for the last two years of our relationship. Yes, really. My reaction was "what the fudge?" too. She wasted so much time in both of our lives.

I became close to another woman after this, but due to that being a bad experience I'm through with committed relationships. If you keep things casual and don't worry about the concept of love, you needn't worry about trust. The commitment which coexists with trust isn't there in the first place.

[cpvr]

I have one of my best mate's PIN numbers for the bank, so pretty much if he gives me his bank card and asks me to go down to an ATM and take £20 out or so, I can go and do that for him. He did know mine as well until I changed it, but I had to change it cause of some security thing the bank was doing and it had to be changed for that.

And then I have Dax's facebook email and password which he gave me to look after for when he loses them - which he did yesterday.

I really don't see a point in anyone having my facebook password especially since I don't have anything to hide, but information for the bank? That's okay to have especially if you and your partner are always spending one another's money on each other.

[SpunkiSpirou]

@cpvr I'll probs end up with Daxter's bank details when/if he gets a bank account, write up plans etc with them cause that's what I do with mine, I have every month for this year written out, what come in on what days and what needs to be paid out on other days, which I stick to, anything else goes into Flex Saver aka 'emergency stash', which atm isn't quite working.