Why is my friend lying, or doing these things?

[Tantra]

Well through work this past summer I met this girl that I really have bonded with. I really don't bond with people and become friends with them. But it just has happened and we have become good friends.

Knowing her the past few months she has talked about how close she is with her boyfriend, and how her boyfriend wanted to settle down and get married and have a baby. When many times she was on the phone with him fighting, or telling me things about him that sent me red flags about him and her relationship and if it would last a long time.

Also, she wears low cut stuff. Like low cut tops that reveal her cleavage, and hip hugging pants that reveal part of her ass crack at times and at times you can see her g-string. At times I have seen her deliberately bend down in front of guys so they could see all of this. Then she gets mad when they make comments or flirt with her. Anyway I have always looked past this, but worried about her at times and if she would be safe.

About last week she tells my husband and I that her boyfriend/fiance was thinking of breaking up with her. Then she mentioned she thought she might be pregnant and wondered if he would stick around. I knew she couldn't be pregnant because she had her time of the month around the same time as me, and at one point complained to my manager that she needed to get into the office to get her tampons and indicated to me she was flowing heavy (not to be gross or anything but this is what happened).

Then about a day later after she told me he was thinking of breaking up with her, she tells my husband and I that they are staying together and that she is pregnant! And he is only staying with her because of the baby. And I am thinking errrr hello you just had your period a week ago. My husband asks her when the last time she had her period and if she was sure, and she tells him she is not sure when she had it (ummmm you told me when you had it!!!), and he tells her she should go to a doctor and get another test there to be 100% sure. Then 2 days later suddenly she has seen a doctor and it is all confirmed. I may be wrong here, but I am pretty sure you can't see most doctors that fast. Unless she went to a clinic or something. And don't you usually have to wait on the blood work for a day or two, for the blood test?

This is all just not adding up for me, and I am really worried for her. No matter what it is she can tell me the truth and I will be there for her and help her. I also hope nothing else is mentally going on with her either. I guess I don't care why she is lying and just really worried for her. She is a really beautiful intelligent girl, and should know she shouldn't have to be desperate to lie and keep a guy. Any opinions on this?

[cpvr]

You can get a doctor appointment quick - especially if its one of those clinics. They usually do the first response pregnancy test to let the person know if they're pregant or not. She could be lying about the fact she's pregnant so her man doesn't leave her - but he'll eventually find out if its not true.

[Tantra]

You can get a doctor appointment quick - especially if its one of those clinics. They usually do the first response pregnancy test to let the person know if they're pregant or not. She could be lying about the fact she's pregnant so her man doesn't leave her - but he'll eventually find out if its not true.

Yeah but a blood test would take longer for the results. I am thinking she is saying she is pregnant to keep him, and then she will get pregnant for real. I think she needs to have more respect for herself and just let him go.

[cpvr]

Yeah but a blood test would take longer for the results. I am thinking she is saying she is pregnant to keep him, and then she will get pregnant for real. I think she needs to have more respect for herself and just let him go.

Ya, there's a bigger picture there. You said she already had her cycle right? Then, she probably could of gotten pregnant after that[not sure though]. Ya, a blood test takes about a week or so to come in.

[Tantra]

Ya, there's a bigger picture there. You said she already had her cycle right? Then, she probably could of gotten pregnant after that[not sure though]. Ya, a blood test takes about a week or so to come in.

Yeah I thought of that angle too. That would make her about a week or two pregnant and would not show up on a test right now. But as of now she is telling everyone she is pregnant and not taking the pill no more, so prob a matter of time she will be pregnant. Doesn't she know that she could further her education so that someday she can get a better job, and meet more people, and some day she will meet the right guy for her and be so much happier that she lived her life first. I know some people don't plan on getting pregnant and do and then go on with there lives and still have good lives and happy to have had children. I mean though she is doing this on purpose, and I think that is awful. But she is lying about being pregnant to keep the guy in her life or planning to get pregnant to keep him in her life, where she could have so much more things in her life down the road.

[Vella C Raptor]

Uhhh wow. If I were her friend I'd slap her and tell her if she has to have a baby to keep a guy around, he is not worth her time.
I'd try to get your friend to take a test with you so you can see for yourself.

If she's pregnant, thennnn yeah. Oops on her part, I doubt things will work out down the road. :c

P.S. I'd get a hold of her asap so she doesn't try to get preggors and make it legit rather than just a lie.
You're her friend, it's your job to slap some sense into her, though no offence I feel more sorry for her bf than her. :/

[Arj]

Most walk in clinics'll only do the same kind of pee tests that you can buy in a store. And even then, a woman can't even tell if she's pregnant via one of those tests until some period of time after getting pregnant, which I think is like three weeks.

...what's worse though is if she is pregnant, something like 25 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, and like half of those happen before the fetus is 3 months old. An acquaintance of mine, Kristina, was doing about the same thing and was so happy when she got "pregnant" and have it recognized on a test until she lost the baby like a week later. But your friend could've also had to gone to the office for smokes or her phone or something, but said tampons because you don't really tell a chick no when she's actively bleeding from her... yeah.

[Tantra]

@Vella C Raptor, I can't really slap her because I work with her and prob get fired for that. But I agree with you she needs some sense knocked into her. I haven't seen her for a few days because I am on vacation from work, so hopefully her roommate or family member who she is also close with can help her and get to the bottom of this and make her realize how whacked this is to stay in this guys life. Even if she is pregnant, she should move on if he just wants to stick around only for the baby.

@Arj, that is possible that she wanted to go to the office for another reason, she don't like being at the register that much and any excuse to get away from it she uses it at times. But she did mention she had her period at another time. A couple of days later I came into work not feeling well and she asked what was wrong? I told her I wasn't feeling good because my period, and she said she knew how that was because she had hers too.

If she is lying and using this to keep this guy, I guess I am disappointed in her and thought she was better than this, smarter than this. I just wonder what is going through her head if she is lying. She is also telling everyone at the store about this. I have been thinking about this, about how she bends over in front of guys and then tells everyone at the store everything, maybe she likes attention? I just hope the best for her and hope she doesn't cause a lot of problems for herself.

[Vella C Raptor]

Well, not a literal slap, but a verbal one would work just as well. xD
I hope she comes to her senses, good luck! D:

[kami]

Yeah but a blood test would take longer for the results. I am thinking she is saying she is pregnant to keep him, and then she will get pregnant for real. I think she needs to have more respect for herself and just let him go.

Actually, blood tests can be fairly quick, just a few hours or less if there is no line. Though if she just went through her cycle, it is doubtful that she is pregnant, but it's still possible. Some woman have ovulated on their period or right after and it's possible that they could've had sex around then. I'm not sure why she would have to take a blood test to find out though, a pregnancy test would be faster (though less accurate the earlier you test).

You could always confront her about the issue and how you feel/what you think. If she's really your friend, she'd be willing to sit and listen (whether it sinks in is another story). See if you can catch her alone and chat for a few minutes about it.